Dating a man 8 years older
People in our lives also expressed the fear that if we were to stay together, we may never have a “normal” life.And, although we've been together for more than a year and a half, live together, and are planning a future with one another, individuals still find it difficult to understand why we have chosen each other.Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.I went through all of the issues in my head thinking, Sometimes, I'd actually pick fights out of insecurity, just so I could utter the lines, “Maybe you'd be happier with someone who for certain has all of her eggs,” or, “Perhaps, you want someone who isn’t on a timeline of starting a family.” I am not a “cougar," the horrible label given to women who date younger men.
It's not like a guy who's five years older than you is going to be taking you out for the Denny's early bird special ever day before promptly going to bed, but odds are those 5 a.m. We can still drink people under the table, we just don't want to do it at some crappy, crowded dive bar. We don't want to be shoving our way through a bunch of sweaty people to get them. You're going to hear stories about "the old days" and wonder why we aren't as fun anymore. The age gaps spanned anywhere from 10 to 14 years, with women in their late 40s and early 50s enjoying relationships and/or marriage with men in their late 20s or 30s. Couples in this situation had to address the fertility concern head-on, with some choosing to take the leap relatively quickly while others took a pass.And then there’s also the concern about one’s looks.(Correct: there isn’t one.)So, after grappling with my own insecurities and the societal taboos, there were also the judgments of friends and family.
At the beginning of our relationship, my friends were concerned that his age automatically revealed his readiness to have a long-term relationship and plan a future together.
Any decently nice guy accumulates ex-girlfriend friends.