Dating guarded people
Before you can ask for what you want, you have to First, begin to ask for what you want from yourself. If you want to be kinder, more open, more outgoing and courageous then slowly begin to ask yourself to take those risks. If you want to be accepted then begin to ask for it. Learn to ask for what you want and start with yourself.
Walls protect our egos, the person we want to believe that we are, not our hearts.
Whether or not such contention is acceptable or not is up to the individual.