Redating an ex boyfriend
G., I am a 17-year-old girl and I'm going into my senior year of high school. My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months about a month ago. Now that I'm working with this boy-maybe we can call him Jim-I'm starting to like him. He asked me to go to a movie this past weekend but I said no because I was so nervous and confused about what to do. There are no clear social rules about this but we can try to tease things apart and discuss some unwritten social rules and etiquette. After a month has passed I believe that you can consider dating him. If she is a close friend then I would suggest that you talk to her and let her know that you are considering dating her ex-boyfriend. Maybe other girls wouldn't think it's a dilemma but to me it is. She didn't talk about it much but she seemed upset when it happened. I would like to go on a date with Jim but I don't want to upset my friend and I don't want other girls to get mad at me. I asked my mother and she said that I should write to you. There is, of course, no simple answer to your question about when and whether or not it is socially acceptable to date a friend's ex. If your friend and this young man broke up within the past week or so then I would suggest that it is too soon to start dating her ex-boyfriend. Second, how close a friendship do you have with this young woman?You should have confidence and charisma, but not act overbearing or needy. If this is the first time you'll be seeing your exboyfriend again, there are two simple rules: short and casual.Dinner is way too formal and too long, so you'll want to pick a lunch or coffee date.
Sarah Schewitz, Psy D is a psychologist with over 10 years of experience helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships.In my experience, friends appreciate hearing directly from friends rather than learning sensitive information from others.